Im just out of a messy relationship looking to pick my self back up and start again so if your willing to help hit me uphonest, funloving down to earth people if this is you send me a messagelooking to have some fun in the room and out of the room and love meetin new people : :. This statistics is further complicated by people's definition of cheating. We live in an age where you don't necessarily have to sleep with another person to cheat. Whenever affection, attention, and energy that should have being directed toward a spouse is being directed toward another, that constitute as emotional cheating.
My husband never asked me to lunch when he was only several hundred feet from my office, but he had the energy to drive all the way from Maryland to DC to go to dinner with a female he met on the plane. That's cheat in my book even though it didn't turn physical. If you include emotional cheating, that number is probably even higher. One who puts his own desires before you and your relationship and has no problem lying in your face to do it and who does not take you or your relationship very seriously.
I'm not going to call or message him because he's going to be back with his friends and family for the first time in years and he should be free to enjoy them without interruption. I have plenty of hobbies, but every time I think about doing one of them, there's this voice in my head saying, "You should be doing work instead!! I actually view this as him attempting to control you, via knocking you down, causing insecurity, such that you will feel so bad and unsure of yourself you would never leave him, as in your eyes what other man would want such a selfish loser as yourself!!
Yes, please end it. I know you said you were planning to, but just do it already. I did, and it looked like he didn't want to change, so I left. Yes, it did hurt. But I don't regret it for a second. What everyone seems to forget is that like most things in life, you have zero control over when you get into a relationship. Yes, you can do the online dating thing, wear nice clothes, wear make-up, be more social, etc. So, does it matter if the OP takes the steps suggested to put herself out there so she will lessen her odds of being single?
Not really. Whether the OP makes an effort or not to find men to date, there is no guarantee any of it will work. I'm not saying the OP shouldn't put herself out there. Even if you do, that doesn't mean it will work. Communication is key in a relationship, he seems to have been very upfront with you He gets frustrated with repeated arguments on the same topic.
